Been down this path.
Put 4.10s in with the 8.25 and D30. Locked the back, Truetrac LSD in the front. Didn't break anything, but couldn't do anything without a cable assist either.
Put a D-44 in the rear, a D-44 in the front, detroits, 4.88's (Same 35's) (also added 4:1 T-case) and ran telico in Nov, lower 2, school bus, trail 11 down, and played on helicopter pad (Upper end) no problems. Did pull cable over the ledge on lower 2, it's a full story tall and we all did.
Don't put a dime in the 8.25. and contrary to the issue of limiting your capability to minimize breakage, make the thing go where you want, not limit where you go because of the thing.
My d-44 rear was 400 bucks on ebay (out of an 86 xj), locker and gears were like 700 more. Tools to do the gears myself around 300. less than your 1500 budget, but knowing how it goes together, and being able to fix it is priceless. The front was a bit more as it's custom width.
If it's not a DD, build it and break it.
It's all about the terror at a half mile an hour. :scared: