The wiring harness side is female, the IAC has the male pins. It is the IAC pins that are damaged, broken?
And yes that could cause a no start condition.
It may be too flooded to start now. You may need to pull the spark plugs, dry them, and try flooring it again, but keep the gas peddle to the floor until it tries to catch and start. Holding the peddle to the floor tells the ECU to stop giving it fuel, so it can dry it out, and opens the throttle body to get it max air flow to dry it out. But once it is dry it needs gas again!!!! So it is trial and error thing to hit the sweet spot.
Check the oil too, make sure it is not fuel of gas now.