You've got more "issues" than you're aware of...
The "Grrr!" is coming from the t-case. I dropped mine 1", and then added 6* shims. While the driveshaft was down, I pulled out the slip yoke, and changed the seal, since it was leaking like a stuck pig.
You might think this is stupid, but it's cheap, so try it at least...
1. Drop the t-case 1". You can do this on the cheap with Home Depot parts, so there's no excuse for not trying it- I shimmed my diff to match the angles better, but even AFTER dropping the T-Case, I had an ugly angle at my case! I'll be putting the T-Case back up after I install the new driveshaft and hard yoke, after Income Tax time...
2. Change the U-Joints. Mine had the zerk fittings, and were heavy-duty due to the "towing Option" I had when built... the "Grrrr" is coming from the yoke moving, even on the road. The suspension flexes a little when driving, so... Mine were dry and worn, even after pumping them full of grease!
3. Shims. I used 6* shims for a 4.5" lift, which actually turned out to be 6.25" in the rear (I used RE 4.5" leafs, which take FOREVER to sag down) I've driven around a whole summer pulling a pop-up trailer, and those damn springs just will NOT sag down! I have since had to "puck" my front springs up 1.5", just to keep the Jeep from having a dragster "rake" in the front. I only wanted 4.5" of lift when I started, but I'm having to do everything else up, just to make up the 6" of lift I GOT with the RE rear springs. Once they sag, I guess I'll be adding shakles to get the back up to match the front.
4. When putting everything back together, pump the yoke hole FULL of grease! This is the MOST important point! What looks like the majority of grease will spooge out of the yoke, but you'll notice that the yoke was DRY when you pulled it out- the "Grrr" is from the dry yoke moving back and forth! The grease helps, but you're still into...
5. Make financial plans to buy a "hard-yoke" and new double joint CV style driveshaft. That alone is the ONLY true cure for the grumbling you hear from the "on/off" throttle noise you hear.
Sorry I didn't offer happy news, but I'm right in there with you man! I LOVE my new lift, but it brought a whole NEW can of worms with it!
Right now, we're living with it- but there's more to do. Sorry!