looking at your wiring diagram, it's not complicated
When you turn the key the "pulse module" gets power. I'm unsure what the purpose of te pulse module is, but it's what actually controls your starter. I'd say that's mercedes fancy speak for starter relay.
it looks like the pulse module also powers the ea/cc/isc module from the same wire that goes to the starter solenoid. quick google says that's some sort of idel speed control thing. probably gets the signal form the start and sets the idle control at a high idle. I'd say not the issue, as that's just a sense wire.
From there it rolls through the backup lamp switch, which is probably some sort of neutral safety switch jobby. From there a violet/white wire goes to the starter solenoid.
I'd do my best to get a test light on that so I could see if the starter is getting power when it fails. If it gets 12V everytime you try to start then I'd peg the starter as faulty. If it doesn't you'll need to track back ot the backup lamp switch, see if you've 12V there. Continue working the circuit back until you get to the ignition switch. It's all violet wire from the ignition switch to the backup lamp switch.
You can ignore the other wire that goes to the glow plug relay. That's a wire that tells the timer to cut the glo plugs because you've turned the key to start.