I'd do 4.88 with a manual transmission. Choosing gears with an auto is a different beast, because you have "dead spots" that get shifted around where the tranny will hunt between gears and drive you nuts. Keeping near stock ratios, such as 4.56 with 35's, can work out nicely, with a focus on crawling coming from t-case reductions.
Plus, just be real. You spend a crap load of time on this board. I don't know why you are even wasting money on 33's. You want 35's, you know it, but you just haven't fully admitted it, or you think you can just live with a D30 and 33's while everybody else is moving up to D44's and 37's. Do 4.88 and put on the 35's. Either set of tires is going to absolutely destroy D30 ball joints with driving 120 miles every day. You won't ever drive 80 mph again, because the ball joints will be constantly loose, and ball joint wobble at speeds over 60 mph is no treat.
You'll have a D44 up front in a year. Better get that daily driver soon. Stick with 31's until you get there.
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