in2fords
NAXJA Forum User
- Location
- Lincoln City, Oregon
I cant beleive that the Government lets this stuff go on!!
I have a lifetime restraining order against my ex in Hawaii, SHE made it bad enough that I was actually worried she might do something stupid to me or my family!! She returned and got one against me in Hawaii, this was all 5-6+ years ago. Last year I got sick of buying tickets and her not putting my son on the plane for COURT ORDERED visitation so I file for a new custody hearing in Hawaii and send her a subpenea. She has never complied with court orders to furnish a home address so i know where my son is even though she allways demands to have mine, so I sent it to her POBOX. its all fine and dandy till I have a cop on my doorstep serving me with a subpenea for Thurston county court. She filed for a restraining order because I was trying to take the child out of the state and causing her emotional distress!!!!!!!!!!! Their court date was the day before the custody trial in Hawaii. I do the Thurston county trial by phone, I was never sent any paper work that she used as evidence and I didnt get a chance to speak during the hearing. They told me I was guilty of domestic violence because she was a WITNESS to my assault 3rd misdemeanor charge!!?? then they told me that I had no right to try to kidnap my son and they gave me no chance to say a single word! about it being a subpenea! I was astonished to say the least. the next day Hawaii said I couldnt get costudy because of the restraining order that she got. I now wasnt allowed to speak to my son or anything for 1 year!! I didnt have the money to go to washington and I cant have her served because I dont know her address, they cant use the court records!! that was one year ago so i will be able to see my son again right? I moved to Oregon this month and now I get a call from my Mom in Hawaii, the cops showed up there!! they treid to serve me a warrant because even though I have not called or contacted them in anyway in the whole last year she is still getting a extension!! and the hearing is on the 6th!! So I only get 2 days notice???!!!!! how can I prepare any documents and send them from out of state in 2 days????
6 years ago I went from 4 visits a year, unlimited daily contact and independent contact with my sons teachers and doctors. She would NEVER answer the phone so I took her back to court and she said she couldnt be home all day so i got a 5 minute window to call him at 7PM, she is allways telling him "if you want this treat you'll get off the phone" so i only would get a couple minutes. then she wouldnt put him on the plane even though I was buying the full ticket so I took her back to court. She said she couldnt be expected to make it to the airport 4 times a year so I got my visits knocked down to 3 times a year!!!! She moved so often and wouldnt give me the school or town so I couldnt contact the doctors or teachers so I took her back to court, she stated some crap about being military and what not so now I cant talk to his teachers and doctors. She is a horrible person so I taker her to court to get my son and now I cant even talk to him!!!!!!!
So EVERYTIME I take her to court for doing something wrong I lose my privlidges with my son!!!!!! and now I may never get to see him again? I guess the only thing a child needs from his father is child support?? oh yea, she has opened up 7 of those cases in different counties, I was paying $310 a month to 3 different states!! so i guess $930 is a good amount to pay her after I paid for her college and help her get her degrees only to sit around the house allday and not work so she can get more money from me? And her husband is a warrant officer in military intelligence, so i can see how they must be hurting for money!!
I guess this isnt only a rant about Thurston county courts, its a rant on teh whole "keep the father away from the child because she is a lying tramp" issue
I have a lifetime restraining order against my ex in Hawaii, SHE made it bad enough that I was actually worried she might do something stupid to me or my family!! She returned and got one against me in Hawaii, this was all 5-6+ years ago. Last year I got sick of buying tickets and her not putting my son on the plane for COURT ORDERED visitation so I file for a new custody hearing in Hawaii and send her a subpenea. She has never complied with court orders to furnish a home address so i know where my son is even though she allways demands to have mine, so I sent it to her POBOX. its all fine and dandy till I have a cop on my doorstep serving me with a subpenea for Thurston county court. She filed for a restraining order because I was trying to take the child out of the state and causing her emotional distress!!!!!!!!!!! Their court date was the day before the custody trial in Hawaii. I do the Thurston county trial by phone, I was never sent any paper work that she used as evidence and I didnt get a chance to speak during the hearing. They told me I was guilty of domestic violence because she was a WITNESS to my assault 3rd misdemeanor charge!!?? then they told me that I had no right to try to kidnap my son and they gave me no chance to say a single word! about it being a subpenea! I was astonished to say the least. the next day Hawaii said I couldnt get costudy because of the restraining order that she got. I now wasnt allowed to speak to my son or anything for 1 year!! I didnt have the money to go to washington and I cant have her served because I dont know her address, they cant use the court records!! that was one year ago so i will be able to see my son again right? I moved to Oregon this month and now I get a call from my Mom in Hawaii, the cops showed up there!! they treid to serve me a warrant because even though I have not called or contacted them in anyway in the whole last year she is still getting a extension!! and the hearing is on the 6th!! So I only get 2 days notice???!!!!! how can I prepare any documents and send them from out of state in 2 days????
6 years ago I went from 4 visits a year, unlimited daily contact and independent contact with my sons teachers and doctors. She would NEVER answer the phone so I took her back to court and she said she couldnt be home all day so i got a 5 minute window to call him at 7PM, she is allways telling him "if you want this treat you'll get off the phone" so i only would get a couple minutes. then she wouldnt put him on the plane even though I was buying the full ticket so I took her back to court. She said she couldnt be expected to make it to the airport 4 times a year so I got my visits knocked down to 3 times a year!!!! She moved so often and wouldnt give me the school or town so I couldnt contact the doctors or teachers so I took her back to court, she stated some crap about being military and what not so now I cant talk to his teachers and doctors. She is a horrible person so I taker her to court to get my son and now I cant even talk to him!!!!!!!
So EVERYTIME I take her to court for doing something wrong I lose my privlidges with my son!!!!!! and now I may never get to see him again? I guess the only thing a child needs from his father is child support?? oh yea, she has opened up 7 of those cases in different counties, I was paying $310 a month to 3 different states!! so i guess $930 is a good amount to pay her after I paid for her college and help her get her degrees only to sit around the house allday and not work so she can get more money from me? And her husband is a warrant officer in military intelligence, so i can see how they must be hurting for money!!
I guess this isnt only a rant about Thurston county courts, its a rant on teh whole "keep the father away from the child because she is a lying tramp" issue