I think the D30 is a better offroad axle than onroad in terms of heavy use. If you plan on putting 15-20K miles annually on your XJ as I was doing at the time, then I think you are well suited to a bit more backspace. Having said that, I think 3.75" is perfect for the track width of a 6" lift in terms of stability, so you gotta pick your poison (or stop polishing turds).
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