OK, now I'm confused. Admittedly I'm a total newb when it comes to this stuff, but I think this depends on the type of driveshaft you are using.
If it is a single cardan driveshaft, then yes I agree you want to get your transfer case and differential at the same angle in order to share the deflection evenly between the u-joints at the transfer case yoke and the differential yoke.
However, if it is a double cardan driveshaft (which the front XJ driveshaft in question is) then you want your driveshaft angle to be within 1*-2* of your differential angle. This allows the u-joint at the differential end to have minimal deflection while the majority of the deflection is absorbed by the double cardan joint.
According to the Tom Woods website in regards to aligning your driveline after installing a SYE kit:
"With this conversion you should be able to keep the transfer case at stock height. You will however, want to be sure to pitch the differential so the pinion points more or less directly at the out-put of the transfer case, maintaining a minimal joint angle at the differential end."