hey guys, thanks for the advice and links and thoughts and etceras. I kind of just got sick of it, since I just had to replace my rims and recently had to repair exploded drum brake. So I checked with ORW who had the RE1600 track bars in stock, and I will note that just looking at these things its obvious how much better quality and design they are than the Rusty's TB.
I work afternoon/nights, and I didnt have the drill or bit I would need to drill out the hole, nor any help for centering the axel no pb blaster on hand, the situation was just crappy for me to try and do it by my self. (I also work 12 hours each day on the weekend getting off around 11pm so to those who offered to lend a hand this weekend I very much appriciate it, but it just couldnt work).
At any rate I got my insurance company to tow my truck to the ORW for free and then spent a couple hours hanging around there while they installed it. The guys were really cool, and even tightened up some stuff and fixed my steering wheel alignment while they were under there. Cost me about $300 out the door parts and labor which at this point is fine since it saves me a ton of stress and buying tools and bitching and moaning at the truck alone in the middle of the night on a slanted driveway with no light to work by.
The good news is, there was something really off down there, my steering with the new TB feels 10x better, its tight and responsive (to the point I can feel my bump steer now how ever minor it is) and just feels a lot safer and almost like a new steering system. Im going to call Rusty's and bitch at them and see if they will replace the track bar, then sell it to someone who wants a backup or a new one and put the money towards a drop pitman arm.
Thanks a ton guys, love being in this great community with all the support and cool people. Now if only i could get out on the trail with you!