Coils have a little to do with how the Suspension flexes, if your geometry is off, it isn't gonna flex for crap. i.e. my personal real world experience is I had skyjacker control arms on about 5" of lift spring. You couldn't even get a finger in between the top of the CA and the bottom of the shock mount on the axle. Then I switched over to Rusty's "bent" or "angled" control arms, Now I can get about 3 fingers in between the same place and it flexes awesome, and rides a lot better too.
However to the question, so far on the XJ I have had skycrapper, and Rubicon express, and the installation of the RE springs was a fantastic decision, they ride so much better than the skyjackers did. You could get a 5.5" Re spring and a 1" spacer and be at the 6.5" that you need. I have the 4.5" now, But I am stepping up to the 5.5" and a spacer myself with drop brackets or switching to long arms