One of you doesn't have the ratio you think you have in the front. The Dana 30 only comes with one gear set in that ratio. I don't remember if it divides out to 3.54 or 3.55, but it doesn't matter. As I explained, they are different only because a Dana 44 has a much bigger ring gear than a Dana 30, so the ring gear has more teeth. The pinion gear also has more teeth. Count the teeth and do the math and that's why the ratios are "different."
In practice, they are the same. That's the way they came from the factory. Whatever you have in the rear now -- Dana 35 or Mopar 8.25 -- I'll bet if you count teeth and do the math it won't be the same as the front. This is why with a part-time transfer case you're not supposed to dive on pavement in 4WD. With the full-time transfer case, the internal differential allows for that.
As I posted before, when you go around a corner the front wheels swing a wider radius than the rear wheels. That alone accounts for more of difference between the front and the rear than 1/100 of a point in actual gear ratio.
Don't make it more difficult than it is.