Definitely go 4.56! I have 33s with 3.55 and it moves but it is not quite the quick nimble Jeep it used to be. I can still manage up to 16 mpg on the highway but thats on a good day, with the wind pushing me, and a lot of downhill.
I am saving up for re-gear and you must think about this too, while through mathematical calculations 4.10 or 4.11 may seem fine, the math doesn't account for a number of extra factors.
The 33s are going to be a wide tire, heavier tire, heavier wheels, more of the tire is exposed from lifting the Jeep hurting aerodynamics, your Jeep has the aerodynamics of a brick and lifting made it worse, if you have added weight of bumpers, skid plates, rocker guards, winch, rack, etc. then your Jeep needs more help pushing all that down the highway and moving all that weight from a dead stop. So factoring all that in means you need more than what the Jeep had stock and 4.56 gears get you there.