How much extra stress do you suppose that detroit places on it? Especially cornering at the speeds involved in going from 2nd to 3rd gear?
I would say that is negligible to the ring gear. The locker puts more stress on the shafts because they are locked. The detroit is likely a good thing fo the ring gear, as it's much less prone to flexing.
The 2nd to 3rd gear shift occured after the intersection, in a straight line, so the locker was not locking and unlocking, at about 35 mph. In town speeds, at part throttle. I cruise at 35 in 3rd gear, ( not running stock gears with 34's in a 5spd) so there weren't excessive speeds involved.
The simple facts are that the D35 is a 1/4 ton axle, with a small ring gear and small pinion bearings.
There was an 8.25 axle swap done at the campground on a trailer at this years Winterfest. It takes 4 hours to swap one in. Why even bother with the 35?
The 8.8 swap is a little more involved, and slightly more costly, but you get disc brakes and a nearly unbreakable axle with anything smaller than 35's.
Do what you want, this tpoic has been beaten to death, and it's generally accepted that you shouldn't run more than a 31 on a d35, or they go boom. There's a reason that there's a stickied topic about it in mod tech.
http://naxja.org/forum/showthread.php?t=80707
You may have the freak of the bunch that's lived behind a stroker or wheeled everything on the planet with 35s, but the bottom line is that there are better, stronger axles available for not much money.