Jeeps Can Lead to Divorce..

[stephenspann27]

Anyone else get in fights with their wives over how much time and money they spend on their jeep? I've actually spent very little on my Jeep, under $1k, including what I paid for it.. and I still get grief over it. Another touchy subject is how much time I spend working on it.. even if its only a hour or so a day... Because it takes time, and attention away from her. She is always trying to get me to sell it and get a new car that "works." I try to explain to her that she is angry over the $1k I have invested in this Jeep over the course of a year, I don't understand how she won't mind spending $750 a month on a car payment. On a vehicle that will loose half it's value in now time.. at least my jeep started out with no value :-).

[Coastie]

Wow another thread about women I wouldn't waste my time over, if you are really spending just an hour a day on it and less than 1K this year she needs to get real. I have spent over 2k on mine in 4 months.....

I don't know your wife and I am not bashing her, nor am I married but she needs to understand that you need your space too. I personally would never date a women that wasn’t independent, clingy girls are the worst!

Try and get her to take the Jeep out for some wheeling :)

[8Mud]

A man came home from work, sat down in his favorite chair, turned on the TV, and said to his wife, "Quick, get me a beer before it starts."

She looked a little puzzled but brought him the beer. When he finished it, he said, "Quick, bring me another beer. It's gonna start soon."

This time she looked a little angry, but brought him another beer.

When it was gone, he said, "Quick, one more beer before it starts."

"That's it!" She blows her top! "You bastard! You waltz in here, flop your fat ass down, don't even say 'hello' to me and then expect me to run around like your slave. Don't you realize that I cook and clean and wash and iron all day long?"

The husband sighed, "Oh <POOPIE>, it's started."

[stewie]

yah, my exwife was jealous of the jeep.

[Darky]

I've had mine for 5 yrs, bought it for $4500. I've since spent close to $7000 on it, in upgrades, not including maintenance. My wife complains a little, but I've never spent money on it that was needed for living expenses or other things. That and the money has all come out of tax returns. :)

[bigalpha]

Luckily my girlfriend likes my Jeep as much as I do. When the semester is over, I'm gonna get her to help wrench on it with me.

[IslanderOffRoad]

My g/f used to give me a hard time about the amount of time I spent on it. Then she got a hobby. Now its cool.

[bigalpha]

What's your girl do for a hobby?

[IslanderOffRoad]

What's your girl do for a hobby?

She's an adult leader for the girl scout unit she used to be in. I'm a leader for the boy scout unit I used to be in as well.

[Bradlybob]

If you don't have any kids with her I'd say it's time to visit a lawyer and get your ducks in a row. It's not the Jeep and it's not the money. It's all about controlling you. She's insecure and clingy and feels the need live your life because she doesn't have one of her own. She will suck the life out of you and leave you an empty shell if you let her.

Proverbs 21:19- Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife.

Nuff said.

[stephenspann27]

That's the issue I'm having, with her not having a hobby of her own, or hanging with any friends of her own.

[Starboard D]

If she is a leader in the Girl Scouts and you in Boy Scouts, tell you are working on the Automotive Repair Merit Badge. You need to keep your skills up to date, so you are qualified. Also, tell her you are being frugal, since a Scout is Thifty!! :D

[1985xjlaredo]

If you don't have any kids with her I'd say it's time to visit a lawyer and get your ducks in a row. It's not the Jeep and it's not the money. It's all about controlling you. She's insecure and clingy and feels the need live your life because she doesn't have one of her own. She will suck the life out of you and leave you an empty shell if you let her.

Proverbs 21:19- Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife.

Nuff said.
This is why my parents always always always told me to never get married. You see your problem now is that if you do get the big D, she'll take the jeep and you'll be left with nothing. SO what do you love more Your Jeep or Your Wife?
My girl is the same way, only I'm building her fukin Jeep now. Blah blah blah I want a XJ too. Spend time with me. Well which is it bitch!

[IslanderOffRoad]

If she is a leader in the Girl Scouts and you in Boy Scouts, tell you are working on the Automotive Repair Merit Badge. You need to keep your skills up to date, so you are qualified. Also, tell her you are being frugal, since a Scout is Thifty!! :D

She understands and there's no problem. She only tells me to sell it when I get really frustrated with money and/or a repair thats not going my way. She keeps me grounded that its supposed to be a fun hobby, not a chore :D

[Darky]

If you don't have any kids with her I'd say it's time to visit a lawyer and get your ducks in a row. It's not the Jeep and it's not the money. It's all about controlling you. She's insecure and clingy and feels the need live your life because she doesn't have one of her own. She will suck the life out of you and leave you an empty shell if you let her.

Proverbs 21:19- Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife.

Nuff said.
Damn, wife wants attention, you immediately tell him divorce? I got a hint for you, women like attention, they need it. Some can get out of hand, yes, but based on the OP I don't see that happening here.
Not everyone is into the whole deal of buying an older vehicle and then working on it to fix/maintain. That goes for men and women. Even my brother in law who is into maintaining his own vehicles (largely out of necessity) gets tired of it and is looking to sell off one of the more "needy" ones. Help your wife find a hobby, or even bring her out to help with the Jeep. I bring my wife out whenever its possible, she actually likes helping work on it and learning about it.

[98XJROKS]

I've spend thousands on my jeep in the past few years and my wife could care less! In facts, she see's it as an inexpensive toy compared to what I could be spending. I hold my hand out and and she lets me do whatever the hell I want, of course spending a little on her jeep doesn't hurt........:patriot:

Pretty well figured that all out prior to getting married!

[fscrig75]

My wife doesn't mind the Jeep so much, but then again I usually only wrench on it when she is working. I've been trying to get her involved but the bouncing around on the trails bother her after awhile, haha.

She does get the as* when it comes to fantasy sports leagues. 2x Football leagues, Baseball, NASCAR. The football leagues are all year long, and the others take a lot of time too. I get away with it most of the leagues, because I tell her they are free, but they aren't haha.

[muduck18]

I had a whole long post that just disappeared..

maybe for the better

[muduck18]

I love my wife, and my wife loves me.
She knows that I enjoy working on my jeep as much a she likes "scrap booking" or decorating the house.
But there are times when she really wants time, and not time of sitting at a dinner or driving to the store, but she likes to play board games, cards, talk, listen.
stuff that is very foreign to me..
but something as simple as a Thursday night TV night, has made my wife happy to just sit on the couch and talk about "the office" or "3d rock"

also she knows my jeep is my hobby, not just a means of transportation.

[js_customs]

My gf is pretty cool about my jeep, and sometimes buys me stuff for it...for Christmas I got a JCR winch bumper and rock sliders :). She does tell me sometimes that I should probably save some money so I can find a place to live after I graduate, but I guess she's right about that. She doesnt understand the hobby really, but she thinks my jeep is cool anyway.

[cal]

My last g/f and I broke up over my jeep. We had other issues, but the jeep was the core of every fight.

In the early 2000's I had a girl who was not only into my wheeling, she would as surprises for me track down new old stock and repro interior and trim parts for my '62 F100 4x4. I shoulda married that one..

[MrShaft696]

A man came home from work, sat down in his favorite chair, turned on the TV, and said to his wife, "Quick, get me a beer before it starts."

She looked a little puzzled but brought him the beer. When he finished it, he said, "Quick, bring me another beer. It's gonna start soon."

This time she looked a little angry, but brought him another beer.

When it was gone, he said, "Quick, one more beer before it starts."

"That's it!" She blows her top! "You bastard! You waltz in here, flop your fat ass down, don't even say 'hello' to me and then expect me to run around like your slave. Don't you realize that I cook and clean and wash and iron all day long?"

The husband sighed, "Oh <POOPIE>, it's started."

hahah true that... when my girl starts I usually say "ok here we goooooo!" & that just makes her more pissed. Its the I didnt do anything but Im about to get it and I know it phrase.

[8Mud]

Funny the wife was always the Jeep person, I always had my Dodges. Her hobbies are driving, shopping and talking on the phone. Mine are wrenching, hunting and my dogs.
It all works out, she has a well maintained Jeep, she even got me to give up my Dodges and get a Jeep. I talk to the dogs and she gossips with her girlfriends.
Our main area of contention is the house. Before we got married I told her I don't do house painting. Our 30th aniversary is coming up the 20th of this month (Hitlers birthday, which helps me remember the aniversary :) ).
I've been painting the house. almost constantly, for 30 years, pretty much a marathon renovation. In exchange for her not complaining about my hunting trips and dogs. It's all about compromise.
Though she usually manages to find a whole plethora of other things to complain about.
She detests my beard, I always tell her if God intended for me to have a naked face he would have given me tits. I keep my beard and she has something to complain about and fill up an otherwise empty life. :)

[Coastie]

(Hitlers birthday, which helps me remember the aniversary :) ).



I effing knew it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[BruceB83]

I love my wife, and my wife loves me.
She knows that I enjoy working on my jeep as much a she likes "scrap booking" or decorating the house.
But there are times when she really wants time, and not time of sitting at a dinner or driving to the store, but she likes to play board games, cards, talk, listen.
stuff that is very foreign to me..
but something as simple as a Thursday night TV night, has made my wife happy to just sit on the couch and talk about "the office" or "3d rock"

also she knows my jeep is my hobby, not just a means of transportation.

Well said!

[RichP]

After I got mine, my son got his TJ, my daughter got her TJ I got her a ZJ. She complains no more, does not even bat an eye when I grab 8 5 quart jugs of Mobil-1 and oil filters, she even pays for it. She knew I hated working on her Dodge Aries and her Oldsmobile, now I keep her ZJ up to snuff and it's all good. Not to mention she actually loves the Jeeps, all of them. She knows I want a 4 door wrangler and says 'whenever you want it go for it' I know we can't afford it right now so she's safe :D :D :D But she did find me a nice dual top 98 Sahara on craigslist that I want to go look at this weekend down in NJ.

[muduck18]

After I got mine, my son got his TJ, my daughter got her TJ I got her a ZJ. She complains no more, does not even bat an eye when I grab 8 5 quart jugs of Mobil-1 and oil filters, she even pays for it. She knew I hated working on her Dodge Aries and her Oldsmobile, now I keep her ZJ up to snuff and it's all good. Not to mention she actually loves the Jeeps, all of them. She knows I want a 4 door wrangler and says 'whenever you want it go for it' I know we can't afford it right now so she's safe :D :D :D But she did find me a nice dual top 98 Sahara on craigslist that I want to go look at this weekend down in NJ.

yeah, I am trying to work out the death wobble from the '98 I got for her.. er I mean my '98 that she will be allowed to drive...:shhh:

[stephenspann27]

Thanks for the replies guys, have been very helpful. I working to help her understand the hobby. She has said before that "normal people have two cars, one for each person, and they don't have to work on them all the time."

I have a Jeep and a 4th Gen Camaro, one of the reasons I bought the jeep is so I would have something to drive while I'm repainting my camaro.. when you have old vehicles with a lot of miles.. you need two of them heh.. and if your luckily at least one of them will always be operable.

[Ba-Riedo]

Luckily my girlfriend likes my Jeep as much as I do.

This, and mine like to go offroading too.:D

-Alex

[buzzbombxj]

Just tell her this; "your right honey, I spend too much time and money in the garage, I guess I will just go out with the boys to the strip club tonight"

Suddenly it won’t seem so bad

Just tell her that wrenching and wheeling are as natural to you as shopping and crying are to her :D

[muddyrocks]

For a lot of folks, working on vehicles at home is therapeutic; allows them to unwire from the days headaches and relax with something which pays dividends to perhaps noone but that person. She should accept you as is because your next therapy session could be finding a woman who understands you better and does accept you.


I suppose she could offer to buy you a tricked out KJ and pay for kick boxing lessons, but thats not the same is it?

[REVROK]

Anyone else get in fights with their wives over how much time and money they spend on their jeep? I've actually spent very little on my Jeep, under $1k, including what I paid for it.. and I still get grief over it. Another touchy subject is how much time I spend working on it.. even if its only a hour or so a day... Because it takes time, and attention away from her. She is always trying to get me to sell it and get a new car that "works." I try to explain to her that she is angry over the $1k I have invested in this Jeep over the course of a year, I don't understand how she won't mind spending $750 a month on a car payment. On a vehicle that will loose half it's value in now time.. at least my jeep started out with no value :-).

Jeeps cannot lead to divorce... period. I have been giving counsel to couples for over 13 years and have myself been married for 26 years to the love of my youth and no other. There has not been a divorce in my family since my parent's wedding day over 64 years ago (they are still alive and more in love than ever). We have fought over the Jeep, but there is always some other issue that is really the core issue. The points you make are valid and your wife is undoubtedly not stupid. She also knows that you enjoy it and probably loves you enough to want you to have some joy in life. There is something else going on... you need to get to the bottom of that. Try responding to the next Jeep argument with, "I know you are really not upset about the Jeep... it is way cheaper for us than a car payment, what is really bothering you? Can we talk about it?" Remember God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason... to listen twice as much as we talk.

[Deadman 94 xj]

Jeeps cannot lead to divorce... period. I have been giving counsel to couples for over 13 years and have myself been married for 26 years to the love of my youth and no other. There has not been a divorce in my family since my parent's wedding day over 64 years ago (they are still alive and more in love than ever). We have fought over the Jeep, but there is always some other issue that is really the core issue. The points you make are valid and your wife is undoubtedly not stupid. She also knows that you enjoy it and probably loves you enough to want you to have some joy in life. There is something else going on... you need to get to the bottom of that. Try responding to the next Jeep argument with, "I know you are really not upset about the Jeep... it is way cheaper for us than a car payment, what is really bothering you? Can we talk about it?" Remember God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason... to listen twice as much as we talk.

That about sums it up! :)

[Mtb Jak]

the look i got from the gf today explaining what a snorkel does... i think anyone with a girl who doesnt wheel or really know what happens while "jeeping" would know the look..

Shes been off road once and doesn't like it, no problem with that I sometimes think itd be weird to have a girl who was into modifying/beating on it with me. Two and a half years weve been together and she saw me get the jeep... do the 3 inch 31 stage for awhile and then right to the 5 inch 33 long arm stage.. now snorkle and some kind of roof basket.. still get the look but she sees how happy I am so she likes it.

[stephenspann27]

Jeeps cannot lead to divorce... period. I have been giving counsel to couples for over 13 years and have myself been married for 26 years to the love of my youth and no other. There has not been a divorce in my family since my parent's wedding day over 64 years ago (they are still alive and more in love than ever). We have fought over the Jeep, but there is always some other issue that is really the core issue. The points you make are valid and your wife is undoubtedly not stupid. She also knows that you enjoy it and probably loves you enough to want you to have some joy in life. There is something else going on... you need to get to the bottom of that. Try responding to the next Jeep argument with, "I know you are really not upset about the Jeep... it is way cheaper for us than a car payment, what is really bothering you? Can we talk about it?" Remember God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason... to listen twice as much as we talk.

Thanks for the excellent advice.

[uvaldetxj]

Well i'm in the same boat as the rest of you guys. My current ex-g/f of 2 years loves my LJ, but hates my XJ. She calls my XJ, "the ugly Jeep" little does she know that it really does hurt my feelings. My XJ was my first vehicle, and to this day my pride and joy. Since i've gotten my LJ i've been able to do things that I've always wanted to do, like strip the interior and cut off the top. I've been fiddling with it for over 2 years now, without having it licensed and inspected. Like a previous poster said earlier, "it's therapeutic" it really is. I love doing stuff to my XJ. I can lay underneath it and look at my front suspension until I fall asleep underneath it. So yeah, we fight about it all the time. "You pick your Jeeps over me", "Why do you work on it, it doesn't even work." "You spend more time with your ugly Jeep than me". She's so clingy and jealous, I don't know how to deal with it. I have to hear that stuff all the time. Some of you guys are really lucky to have understanding g/f's.

[IslanderOffRoad]

My girl likes to go out wheeling with me.

She hates wheeling campsites though due to bro's and lack of bathrooms.

I need to get an RV

[Coastie]

Some of you guys are really lucky to have understanding g/f's.


No they just didn't settle.

My girl likes to go out wheeling with me.

She hates wheeling campsites though due to bro's and lack of bathrooms.

I need to get an RV

This is the first post of a ligament reason for one of y'all's girls to dislike Jeepin.

[iluv83vettes]

I sometimes think itd be weird to have a girl who was into beating on it with me.
Awesome ...

[fscrig75]

My girl likes to go out wheeling with me.

She hates wheeling campsites though due to bro's and lack of bathrooms.

I need to get an RV

Man ain't that the truth!!

[Glenn B]

Just this morning my GF said "the weather is going to be great today, perfect day to work on the Jeep". Gotta love that. She is looking forward to it being ready to hit some trails. :-)

[kingmeirl]

I must be the luckiest guy alive. My wife before she was my wife bought me the twin turbo kit for my 5.0 mustang. I bought her a 01' WJ and she had never been wheeling, I took her once and she loves it almost as much as I do. I then got my XJ and we both go wheeling with walkie talkies. She loves following us guys down the medium trails. I have not even taken her in my XJ yet cause of the kids but she wants to drive it. And as for wrenching, I get to do it whenever and for however long I want (the mustang was in her garage spot for a month when I put the twin turbos in). The only thing we fight about is how grumpy I am in the morning.

[Fullsizexj]

My wife never says anything about what I spend on the Jeep, although she asks anyone that looks at it if they want to buy it

[igotanxj]

Jeeps cannot lead to divorce... period. I have been giving counsel to couples for over 13 years and have myself been married for 26 years to the love of my youth and no other. There has not been a divorce in my family since my parent's wedding day over 64 years ago (they are still alive and more in love than ever). We have fought over the Jeep, but there is always some other issue that is really the core issue. The points you make are valid and your wife is undoubtedly not stupid. She also knows that you enjoy it and probably loves you enough to want you to have some joy in life. There is something else going on... you need to get to the bottom of that. Try responding to the next Jeep argument with, "I know you are really not upset about the Jeep... it is way cheaper for us than a car payment, what is really bothering you? Can we talk about it?" Remember God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason... to listen twice as much as we talk.

Great advice. I agree with everything you said...except that last part.
DNA evolution and mutation gave us two ears and a mouth. ;)

[muddyrocks]

The thread should close with REVROK's advice but another thread has developed from within, as often is the case... God I love women!! Jeep, no Jeep. Can't live without women.

[stephenspann27]

Well i'm in the same boat as the rest of you guys. My current ex-g/f of 2 years loves my LJ, but hates my XJ. She calls my XJ, "the ugly Jeep" little does she know that it really does hurt my feelings. My XJ was my first vehicle, and to this day my pride and joy. Since i've gotten my LJ i've been able to do things that I've always wanted to do, like strip the interior and cut off the top. I've been fiddling with it for over 2 years now, without having it licensed and inspected. Like a previous poster said earlier, "it's therapeutic" it really is. I love doing stuff to my XJ. I can lay underneath it and look at my front suspension until I fall asleep underneath it. So yeah, we fight about it all the time. "You pick your Jeeps over me", "Why do you work on it, it doesn't even work." "You spend more time with your ugly Jeep than me". She's so clingy and jealous, I don't know how to deal with it. I have to hear that stuff all the time. Some of you guys are really lucky to have understanding g/f's.

hah.. I've heard the same things. "I do not want that in our drive way" "I don't want to be seen in that" This is even after giving my '87 XJ a new paint job.. it looks like brand new... well 1987 brand new..


"you would rather work on your jeep than spend time with me"

[stewie]

The thread should close with REVROK's advice but another thread has developed from within, as often is the case... God I love women!! Jeep, no Jeep. Can't live without women.

correction: God I love Jeeps! Women or no woman, I cant live without Jeeps

"you would rather work on your jeep than spend time with me"

yep, i work on the jeep to get away from your nagging.

[hubs97xj]

Great advice. I agree with everything you said...except that last part.
DNA evolution and mutation gave us two ears and a mouth. ;)

The first mammals that listened twice as much as they squeaked were killed far less often by their mates, resulting in their genes being successfully passed. It remains good advice hundreds of millions of years later. :shhh:

[RichP]

The thread should close with REVROK's advice but another thread has developed from within, as often is the case... God I love women!! Jeep, no Jeep. Can't live without women.

We have alot of latin american women where I work, all hottttt, a few years ago my kids stuck a 'Cape cod Nude beach parking permit' in my rear window behind the spare tire. I more or less forgot about it, till yesterday, parked in a non normal parking spot where everyone hangs out during lunch.
One of them came into my office and asked 'Do you like nude beeeeeeches [sounded like bitches], I choked on my coffee said then she realized what it sounded like. We both laughed our asses off for a good 5 minutes. The fact that one of the managers was walking by and literally tripped into a wall at that moment only added to the hilarity. Yup, I love women, like kids you never know what they are going to come out with next... Later on when she was answering CS calls I flashed a little sign " I like BOTH".... :D :D :D :D :D she could not handle any more calls for like 10 minutes.

[bjoehandley]

Hahahahaha great story Rich!

[Carol.92124]

My last g/f and I broke up over my jeep. We had other issues, but the jeep was the core of every fight.

I thought it was the jeep-parts-all-over-the-house that was the fight source, but I guess that's about the same thing! :gee:

In the early 2000's I had a girl who was not only into my wheeling, she would as surprises for me track down new old stock and repro interior and trim parts for my '62 F100 4x4. I shoulda married that one..

Yeah, but then you wouldn't get to be roomies with Cracker...

[REVROK]

Great advice. I agree with everything you said...except that last part.
DNA evolution and mutation gave us two ears and a mouth. ;)

Thanks... we'll agree to disagree on that last part, especially since I think He (God) has a lot to do with the first part.

[Glenn B]

, especially since I think He (God) has a lot to do with the first part.

jhgdkygyGLGIuylY :piratefla :doh: hasta

[Deadman 94 xj]

Thanks... we'll agree to disagree on that last part, especially since I think He (God) has a lot to do with the first part.


AGREED!

[REVROK]

The thread should close with REVROK's advice but another thread has developed from within, as often is the case... God I love women!! Jeep, no Jeep. Can't live without women.

True dat! :cheers:

correction: God I love Jeeps! Women or no woman, I cant live without Jeeps



yep, i work on the jeep to get away from your nagging.

You, my friend have not found the right woman yet!

[REVROK]

Thanks for the excellent advice.

You know it gave me real joy to write that and more to read your response. Blessings to you and your wife.:cheers:

[muddyrocks]

... bless the nude beeeeeches too.

[Darky]

jhgdkygyGLGIuylY :piratefla :doh: hasta
Get over it, you disagree with him, so does igotanxj, but he didn't have to get all bent out of shape.

[muduck18]

jhgdkygyGLGIuylY :piratefla :doh: hasta

If your wrong, and ROVROK is right.(and there is an all powerful God) when you die, you go to hell for eternity.
If REVROK is wrong, and you are right (and we evolved from Apes, and God has nothing to do with it or there is no God) When we all die nothing happens.. and then in some cases we come back as a flower or fertilizer for the circle of life...

I am going to put my money on the one with less damage if I am wrong...:peace:

[RichP]

I am going to put my money on the one with less damage if I am wrong...:peace:

It's called hedging your bets, similar to diversifying your investments. Always a good idea. Pardon me while I put my bible away and roll my prayer rug out.

[Darky]

Not sure if God's in the fire insurance business...;)




:D

[muduck18]

Not sure if God's in the fire insurance business...;)




:D

I said nothing about fire insurance, Fire insurance will repay you AFTER you have been burned.
I am talking about a sprinkler system (like the Catholic church just with more water)
:spin1:

[muduck18]

and back on topic: just like a prenuptial when your broke.... Hedging bets is right.

[Darky]

I said nothing about fire insurance, Fire insurance will repay you AFTER you have been burned.
I am talking about a sprinkler system (like the Catholic church just with more water)
:spin1:
:cheers:

[ladywolf]

the look i got from the gf today explaining what a snorkel does... i think anyone with a girl who doesnt wheel or really know what happens while "jeeping" would know the look..

Shes been off road once and doesn't like it, no problem with that I sometimes think itd be weird to have a girl who was into modifying/beating on it with me. Two and a half years weve been together and she saw me get the jeep... do the 3 inch 31 stage for awhile and then right to the 5 inch 33 long arm stage.. now snorkle and some kind of roof basket.. still get the look but she sees how happy I am so she likes it.

so why do you think it would be to have a girl who likes wheeling and wrenching?