Cold feet

[Dirt]

Metallica's Fade to Black is what I think of when I think of getting married. I will be married on August 4th 2006.

I'm not afraid of being married. I'm afraid, the me I've known for 29 years, will dissapear.

A girl asked me once... Why had I never been married. I told her, as I passed the joint, I never asked.

I'll never get to say that pimp ass shit again. I'll not be the untamed, ferocious man that I have been. I will be a man that has settled down.

I don't wanna be that guy. I still want to black out from too much whiskey. I don't mind getting my ass kicked out of strip joints. Those are the best stories. The ones you have to hear second hand because you have no recollection of them.

I want to marry my wumun. I just don't want to change.

Anybody else had cold feet? Any tips?

[CanMan]

Good luck. I wish you the best. :thumbup:

Just watch 'Run Away Bride'. Make yours 'Run Away Groom', if your getting cold feet.

[Dirt]

Good luck. I wish you the best. :thumbup:

Just watch 'Run Away Bride'. Make yours 'Run Away Groom', if your getting cold feet.


I'm gonna kick you in the nutz for telling me to watch Run Away Bride.

[SeanP]

welcome to adulthood. Next thing you know you will lose your hair, gain 25 pounds, lose interested in your hobbies, strap yourself to a crippling amount of debt for which you will work a job you hate, lose touch with your single friends, wake up just shy of 40 and scream WTF?????

who me? mid life crisis? nahhhhh ;)

we all want to be cave men inside. The best we can do is to marry women that understand these innate desires. Breaking your jeep, burning metal together, throwing up at the camp site for drinking too many of Jes's margaritas is all therapy for the modern married man

[IcedXJ]

Metallica's Fade to Black is what I think of when I think of getting married. I will be married on August 4th 2006.

I'm not afraid of being married. I'm afraid, the me I've known for 29 years, will dissapear.

A girl asked me once... Why had I never been married. I told her, as I passed the joint, I never asked.

I'll never get to say that pimp ass shit again. I'll not be the untamed, ferocious man that I have been. I will be a man that has settled down.

I don't wanna be that guy. I still want to black out from too much whiskey. I don't mind getting my ass kicked out of strip joints. Those are the best stories. The ones you have to hear second hand because you have no recollection of them.

I want to marry my wumun. I just don't want to change.

Anybody else had cold feet? Any tips?

When I read this I read:

Metallica's Fade to Black

Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah
Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah Cold Feet



Listen just chill, if ya got the right gal it shall be okay. That is all I can say legally since I am not getting married for some time.

[5-90]

A good marriage is a partnership, in which each understands the other and allows them to be themselves.

I'm not going to say that marriage hasn't changed me, but my wife understands who I am, and tries to understand the forces that have formed me into the charming, uflappable arsehole I am to-day.

Besides, a good woman won't try to change you. She may encourage you to change, but she won't try to change you - big difference, that. I'm certainly more civilised than I was ten years ago, and I needed a little polish, I think.

Besides, the only time I've actually cried in the last 30 years was when I got married - I was that happy!

"Marriage is finding that special someone to annoy for the rest of your life."

5-90

[8Mud]

Just a few pieces of advice, but heck don't listen to me, I don't. Live together for a few years before getting married. You really don't know a person until you've shared a bathroom with them for a couple of years and until the hormone thing looses it's edge a bit.
A marriage license, is often a license for the bride to do just about anything she wants and get away with more than half of everything you own, if you don't accomodate her.
My wife and I had an understanding about her friends and my friends before we got married. I have no say about yours and you have no say about mine. A womans girlfriends have screwed up more marriages than most mother in laws have. Most women can't resist givng advice on how to tame a man, even though they have never had a relationship that lasted longer than a few months. The girls get together and empower themselves to start trouble with there husbands or boyfriends.
I once grabbed one of my wifes girlfriends by the collar and the seat of her pants and showed her the door. Told the wife, they will have to pursue there friendship someplace else.
I've been married to the same woman for close to thirty years and she hasn't tamed me yet and/or vice versa. I actually think most of her girlfriends are envious.

[Rambo]

Don't do it, its a trap....


And if you do, always let your balls hang out, i.e. dont let her start to run your life, if you let her, little by little she will control your mind...


it almost happened to me....:anon:

[Fergie]

If you've got cold feet, walk away.

The person you are, shouldnt disappear. Marriage isnt some huge change, but more a natural progression.

Personally, the living together bit is crap. If little things and pet peeves stop a couple's love, then they werent that in love in the first place.

Marriage is a 100% compromise, not this 50% crap you hear about. My wife is the only person I have ever wanted to change for, but I am still the sonnofabitch I was, I've just learned some temperance, thats all.

Fergie

[jeepinxj01]

I just got married this year at the end of April. My wife and I fight constantly, about the stupidest shit you can think of. Even before we got married we were like that, but that's us. We fight. We get over it. I'm like 5-90....I cried on my wedding day. I was truly happy that day and still am. She doesn't understand my Jeep habit, but supports it. That's all you can do. Support the other and swallow your pride and compromise all to hell. If she's the one.....having cold feet is normal. If I were you, I'd be more worried if I didn't have cold feet. Good luck.

oh.....wedding night sex is great!! :)

KyS

[Bradlybob]

Run man, run!

[XJ Dreamin']

Who you've been don't mean squat. Who will you be is what matters. When I was single I got drunk: I got in a couple of fights: I puked my guts out for 21 hours straight. The truth is, I wasn't a man before I got married - I was a 20-something 200# spoiled crybaby pain in the a$$. It took the first 10 years of marriage to learn how to be a man.

You want to marry her because you love her. If there is any issue muddying-up that statement, step back. If you don't want to change, forget it.

I wish you luck and a ton of good sense.

[Tree Frog]

A good marriage is a partnership, in which each understands the other and allows them to be themselves.

I'm not going to say that marriage hasn't changed me, but my wife understands who I am, and tries to understand the forces that have formed me into the charming, uflappable arsehole I am to-day.

Besides, a good woman won't try to change you. She may encourage you to change, but she won't try to change you - big difference, that. I'm certainly more civilised than I was ten years ago, and I needed a little polish, I think.

Besides, the only time I've actually cried in the last 30 years was when I got married - I was that happy!

"Marriage is finding that special someone to annoy for the rest of your life."

5-90

:clap: :clap: :clap:

My wife never asked me to stop doing anything. She would pick me up at the bar when I was loaded and never say a word even though she doesn't drink. She never complained about anything, and slowly I just stopped.

I enjoyed spending time with her more than going to the bar. I'll still go with the guy's every once in a while, but it's not that often any more, but it's because she told me to stop.

[Ramsey]

:clap: :clap: :clap:

My wife never asked me to stop doing anything. She would pick me up at the bar when I was loaded and never say a word even though she doesn't drink. She never complained about anything, and slowly I just stopped.

I enjoyed spending time with her more than going to the bar. I'll still go with the guy's every once in a while, but it's not that often any more, but it's because she told me to stop.
Is that what she told you to say?

[buzzbombxj]

Is she telling you that you can’t drink so much, that you can’t go to tittie bars, and that you (god forbid) can’t smoke anymore? If she never out and out told you "no" then there isn’t really any problem.

So if you love her marry her, and if she develops issues with you having fun, go with the time honored method of dealing with women: lie to her.

[Matthew Currie]

Getting married shouldn't change who you are, but it may change some of the things you do. You need to have a few understandings before you start. It sounds as if you two need to have a little talk about what you expect. If she's the kind of woman who thinks of you as raw material for a makeover project, you should run. If you're the kind of man who really defines who he is by the way he acts when he's drunk then maybe she should run.

[5-90]

Is she telling you that you can’t drink so much, that you can’t go to tittie bars, and that you (god forbid) can’t smoke anymore? If she never out and out told you "no" then there isn’t really any problem.

So if you love her marry her, and if she develops issues with you having fun, go with the time honored method of dealing with women: lie to her.

Well, I don't drink very often anymore ("You can't run away from trouble - there ain't no place that far!") still smoke cigars every now and again (outsite - she's mildly allergic to smoke, but likes the smell?!?) and I went to a titty bar right after we got back from honeymoon years ago, and she asked if I needed any money to go! I don't go out carousing so much anymore (I'm a bit older, and all my buddies married late as well...) but I find it important to note that I changed me, and it was nice to get confirmation that my changes were appreciated (I did need to make a few - no argument there.)

I'm a big advocate of long engagements (after all, you wouldn't buy a car without a test drive, would you?) and most "differences" that are dealbreakers can be overcome (she's 17 years older than I am - but it don't matter to us...) if the core of the partnership is there, but I can't make that evaluation for you. You have to sort that out for yourselves...

5-90

[Dirt]

Is she telling you that you can’t drink so much, that you can’t go to tittie bars, and that you (god forbid) can’t smoke anymore? If she never out and out told you "no" then there isn’t really any problem.

So if you love her marry her, and if she develops issues with you having fun, go with the time honored method of dealing with women: lie to her.


I like your style. :thumbup:

[flexjay87]

hey you had 29 good years, thats all i should say........

[8Mud]

Getting married shouldn't change who you are, but it may change some of the things you do. You need to have a few understandings before you start. It sounds as if you two need to have a little talk about what you expect. If she's the kind of woman who thinks of you as raw material for a makeover project, you should run. If you're the kind of man who really defines who he is by the way he acts when he's drunk then maybe she should run.

That sums up my thoughts pretty well.

The only thing I might add is (and my qualifications to have an oppinion are staying married to the same woman for over 30 years), that you almost have to have the attitude, that you are going to make this work, some way, some how, no matter what it takes.
I've noticed stages in the relationship between married couples. Most every couple I've known for an extended period, goes through changes and the changes actually seem to run to some sort of time table, three years, 6-7 years, etc. Like humps or bumps in the road that you have to get over and put behind you. The relationship evolves. If you are gonna make it last, you have to reinvent yourself somewhat, every few years or so. I'm not talking about your core, but your priorities. I've seen a whole lot of marriages fail, due to the lack of adaptability and/or changing priorities. One partner or the other our both fail to make the next step towards maturitiy.

[CanMan]

So....How'd the marrage go? Sucka. :D

Hope it was a good one. :thumbup: