Welcome to another NC local
Most folks find that ZJ lift coils give more lift when used on the XJ.
(ex: 4.5" Rubicon Express ZJs will give approx 6-6.5" on the XJ)
Adding cheap 1.75" poly spacers (or stacking these ICW 1/2" factory coil isolators) or trick adjustable spacers like ORGS 0"-3" ACOS to tune the height.
Next step is sorting out your suspension links (upper & lower LCA + track bar) & steering. The RE drop brackets for the LCA frame mount sem to be the hot ticket for the short-arm crowd, as the higher one goes, the more harsh & non compliant-on the road- the suspension gets. Long arm style suspension addresses this differently, and the folks with those rave about the ride quality...
My +-6" front lift is a conglomerate of homebrew and aftermarket, but it works pretty well for what I have invested. It is neither a pure rock-crawler or mud-slinger...kinda all around junker that has seen daily commuting duty as well as bashing around the SE. I started with Rustys 4.5" coils with 1.75" and two factory spacers, RE adjustable 'superflex' UCA, Battleaxe Fab fixed/dogleg LCA with 'johnny joints' at the frame end, Rusty's steering conversion, adjustable track bar, hydro shocks and extended braided s/s brake hoses. The rear is less exotic: Rusty's 4.5" pack with two (?) extra leaves, and factory MJ shackles.
A couple of things I did 'extra' was to remove the shock mounts from the axle and add 'eye' style mounts to the top. My shox mount directly to the LCA and the eyes are oriented so the bolts are paralell to the axleshafts (this allows more droop as well as allowing the shock to travel in a non-binding arc with the fore-aft LCA movement. I also sheathed the brake hoses with plastic tube, to help prevent chafing of the s/s and hose failure.
Out back I removed the drop shock mounts from the 44 axletube, and had new ones mounted at approx the c/l of the tube...this makes for less things to snag under there. The gas-charged shocks are mounted to a custom top mount (2" x .250" sq tube that mounts between the rails using the front IIRC bumpstop holes
I retained the non-disconnect 30, but it really might be more economical to go with something beefier from get go. I haven't had a lot of front ax problems (running 33") and I am sort of a mentalcase with the gas pedal sometimes, so :dunno: but I would look into bigger if boulding another one from scratch with plans for big tires.
If I keep the 30 in there, I need to address the axle end track bar mount. I think the OEM mount is a limiting factor to my setup. The under-knuckle tie-rod steering is at the upper end of it's design envelpe at my height...Ideal would be boring the tapers out of the knuckles and building something with rod-ends over the knucks.
I'm sure I missed something, and be certain that my setup is not perfect...but it works well enough and I'm satisfied.
BTW I'm next door to ya in Moore Co.