the factory tow package XJ's do not have a rear sway bar
Not quite - it was the ones that left the factory with the UpCountry suspension that had the rear swaybar delete.
my 01 w/ factory tow package has a rear sway bar
ive been pondering removing it though
Take it off; it's about the best zero-dollar mod you can do. Did the same on my '01 Sport when I still had that XJ and it made a world of difference off-road. On-road manners stayed the same.
i wanna wheel it, but my articulation is not to good
Okay. I may have missed your answer to this, but: has the rear swaybar been removed? If not, your articulation
will suck at the back.
i just want 6-8, to clear 35's and so i can crawl better, as of right now i get no flex really and last time i wheeled it only flexed abit and i almost tipped
If you think it's tippy now at 4.5", wait until you get up to 6" or 8" without addressing what the current problems are. Yeah, there
may be a spring or shock issue here, but you may also end up just making things worse. Related to that:
does anyone kno what to do? im ganna remove front sway
No, do not remove the front swaybar. Get quick disconnects. You're probably going to get a bunch of conflicting opinion on this now that I've said that, but if you're driving this on-road for any appreciable amount of time being able to keep the front swaybar connected on pavement is not just a nice-to-have but also a safety issue in terms of handling IMHO.
also the lift is the standard short arm
Have the control arms (upper and lower) been replaced with adjustable or fixed-length aftermarket units, or are you still using the stock control arms?
Going to 6" or 8" is going to require long arms to do it right. Seriously, let's figure this problem out before throwing more height at it.