I've got the same issue, here's what to do.
Pull the valve cover and look for obvious cracks, I've been told the area between number 3 and 4 cylinder is where it happens the most.
Do a compression test, your looking for balanced readings. If two cylinders ajacent to each other read lowere than the rest I could be a head gasget. Or something else.
If a cylinder reads low, pour a couple of tablespoons of oil in the spark plug port and repeat test. If the pressure climbs its most likley rings.
Do a cylinder leak down test. This will tell you if it's holding pressure or not. If its not holding pressure you can usually tell where the air is going, that will point you in the right direction.
Do a pressure test of the coolant system. You can usually find where the coollant is going, if it leaks at all. If you can't find a puddle or escaping coollant someplace it's most likely internal.
Have your oil tested, results will confirm or deny possible coolant in oil.
So, in order of importance.
1 -Have oil tested just before oil change. The sample will have a good opportunity to become contaminated.
2 -Do a system pressure test, with the valve cover off, just to maske sure you can see if it's coming out of a crack
3 - Compression test
4 -Cylinder leak down test